Solo Dating

Friday night in January, and I am meeting a friend in the local pub.
The pub is pleasantly full; it is great to see so many people who did not give in to the dry January propaganda and chose to socialise and support struggling British pubs.

We are talking about dating, or rather, how to find a date.
Where do you meet single men?

A quote from the much-loved film “Must Love Dogs” came to mind and made me smile.
The opening line of the movie:
“The best place to meet a guy is at the supermarket. You don’t need to waste a lot of time there, either. You see a guy holding a list, you know he’s married. He’s in the frozen food section, carrying a small basket; he’s single. I like to hang out by fruits and vegetables, there’s a better chance of getting a healthy guy.”

We both tried and ruled out online and speed dating very quickly. It is just too soul-destroying. Classes, groups, and workshops of any kind are usually full of women. It feels like all the good guys are taken, the ones that are back on the market after divorces are traumatised by the experience.
And of course, amazing, self-sufficient, successful women are not prepared to settle for any relationship. Our wish list is very demanding.

After running out of original ideas, we both agree that our main focus is cultivating a fulfilling, happy, fun life, because the most vital relationship we have is with ourselves, which helps us feel empowered and confident in our journey.

What about a date? This Valentine’s Day, I am taking myself out on a date to see a show in the theatre. Celebrating myself on special occasions like this makes me feel joyful and appreciated 🙂

Wishing all my readers happy, meaningful relationships with themselves.

With Love as Always,
Yana De Lilac